Hi it's been awhile.
Social acceptance.
To be socially accepted.
Social acceptance is something that everyone undergoes. To be socially accepted is to be normal. Whatever that means. Normal. What is normal? Who defined normal? Me? You? Them? What's the total definition of normal? Personality? Or is it looks? So, does everyone have to act the same way? Dress the same? Think alike? Wonder what it means? Well, that makes the both of us.
But to what extent does this drive us? Up to a point we'd stop having opinions? Stop talking? Change the way we dress? The way we look? Do we hide our tears? Our feelings? Well, we don't want to be 'weird' now or do we? To what extent do we keep chasing all these standards? How long can we last?
Well, that's a whole lot of questions to think about.
Breaking points.
We all have them.
That's when we stop.
BUT
We'd stop everything by then. Stop trying. No more self confidence. No more looking forward for tomorrow. No more going out. Nothing.
We would just stop living by then. Cause social acceptance 'matters'.
We WANT to fit in. I mean, who wants to be an outcast right? A loser? Who wants to sit alone during lunch? Who wants to feel like no one has their back? Right. For a majority group of people. We would hate that.
We want and we HAVE TO be pretty enough. Good enough. Smart enough. Skinny enough. Curvy enough. When will it be enough? When will everything just be 'good enough' for everyone. When can we start being happy for what WE want? For what WE have? WHEN? When will we be enough? Enough to stop 'the society' from judging us?
I guess there's no end to this standard?
You dress up nicely? You're not smart enough. Got a degree? Still not good enough. Got masters? You can't cook. Learn how to cook? You're not married at 25. Get married? Why don't you have kids? Got a child. Only one? Your house is too small. You take public transports? Don't own a car?
IT. GOES. ON.
Social acceptance just hits you. Be it your best friend. Your mother. Your siblings. You just have times where you stop acting like YOU.
You can't possibly risk being 'weird' can you?
We have to act a certain way. Say certain things. Think a certain way. Walk a certain way. We are programmed by the very definition of 'normal'.
Then we collapse. We just can't take it. Cause everything is just too much. You still think you're not good enough. You're not enough. You have to be more than THIS.
More than happy.
Cause that doesn't matter. You'll get it when people FINALLY accept you.
Whenever that is.
What if I told you, you matter. Whoever you are. Where ever you are. YOU. MATTER. Period.
Your opinion matters. The way you dress is your choice. NO MAKE UP? Okay. MAKE UP? Sure.
Want to chase your dreams? GO!
And
STOP.
Stop beating yourself up. You are enough. No matter what he says. No matter what she says. No matter what they say. It doesn't matter.
The number of likes on Instagram does not define who you are. The number of followers you have don't matter. Your grades don't define who you are. Your relationship doesn't define who you are. THE SOCIETY does not define who you are. YOU DEFINE YOU!
People won't stop talking. They'd find the smallest flaw on us to pin us down.
What do you want?
What's your dream?
Who are you?
That's your goal.
Living for you.
Not the society.
